tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post623393126117736055..comments2024-03-14T03:43:02.583-04:00Comments on EPBOT: Rage Against The Rage-QuitJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11888187687405622408noreply@blogger.comBlogger193125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-15793906312614154112014-08-11T17:13:14.320-04:002014-08-11T17:13:14.320-04:00...HA! I've been Rage-Surfing Epbot all day i......HA! I've been Rage-Surfing Epbot all day instead of doing any actual work because I got "fired" by a client this morning. (A client who I'm kind of glad to be rid of, actually.) I'm scared to death to go home because I know I'm going to pout around and my husband will try to make me feel all better but I won't want to feel better, and I might Rage-Make-Him-Eat-Cereal-for-Dinner and that's such a load of selfish b.s. If nothing else, I've realized how much I missed Epbot in the last few months as I've been too busy being A Serious Overly-Important Full-time Litigator. The gorgeous colors and textures here just make me so happy. I love you! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-19199830129055804082014-03-23T01:38:06.378-04:002014-03-23T01:38:06.378-04:00This! So much it's described in here that I ha...This! So much it's described in here that I had to comment. I've read this page for years, and this moved me enough to know I had to comment. I do this, I get told by others in my profession this is not ok, but it is ok for me because the rage-quit, sulk, regroup is healthier than keeping it in than wrecking my health. I'm a therapist by day, and I make it a rule to look at habits like these for my clients and help them weigh the pros and cons. Rage quit for a few days, so that by next week you are back fresh and revived and maybe just lost a few days/nights to it, or keep pushing too far past what is healthy and end up hospitalized due to stress, relapsing, or worse. Be kind to yourself, introverts suffer so much already (again raises hand for this is me) that mental vacations such as our rage quits can be essential. The key is to know your limits and have safety people around to keep the "I need a break" from going too far. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08304271417728466242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-53811231242859040652014-03-20T19:58:28.775-04:002014-03-20T19:58:28.775-04:00I've been doing this for years! There's a...I've been doing this for years! There's also the flip side of rage-quitting - I call it "negative perfectionism". You have to get it right (i.e.perfect), but there's only one chance to get it "right" and 99 chances to be less than perfect. With such high odds of "failure", I can talk myself out of doing something and never even try. <br /><br />One night, my husband and I were watching some TEDtalks on Netflix and came across one from Ze Frank. Among other things,he shared the story of the "Chill-out Song". It's short, simple, and it really helps! Plus it makes me laugh, and I always feel better when I can laugh. We use it for lots of things now, whether it's blowing off road rage or work frustration or what have you. <br /><br />You can hear the Chillout song and see the storybehind it at Ze's website (http://www.zefrank.com/chillout/) or watch the TEDtalk here (http://www.ted.com/talks/ze_frank_s_web_playroom). Hope it helps you, too!Chemgirlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-46726926522182264222014-03-16T12:08:28.867-04:002014-03-16T12:08:28.867-04:00Um, did you get inside my head? Because everything...Um, did you get inside my head? Because everything you described, down to the oreo eating, seems awfully familiar... And seeing this many comments has also helped a ton because I was beginning to think that rage-quitting this graduate degree was a good idea. Now I just see I'm overwhelmed and tired and that's ok - because once I know it's a rage quit and not a real one, it's easier to deal with. leapnlzrdshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15096501055140937008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-1934547731243451522014-03-14T11:06:53.595-04:002014-03-14T11:06:53.595-04:00Oh, Jen, thank you for this post... I've circl...Oh, Jen, thank you for this post... I've circled back to it for a week now... I'm not really in a place to give anything helpful right now, but I can say I'm a complete rage-quitter too... for me it's all-or-nothing mentality on overdrive... <br /><br />I'm watching a hobby group I dearly love failing because our beloved leader (the only leader of the group in it's 37 year existence) is aging and losing her ability to lead and teach. It was the best thing in my life (sucky job, rough family situation), and now I'm watching it fall apart as well as seeing someone who has been deeper than family to me start accelerating along the journey into night... and it's taking everything I have to stay engaged, to help the group through the rough times, and to love her through the end. It's breaking my heart and is the worst case of NEEDING the rage-quit I've ever had -- because I want the "safety" of giving up, and I don't think I could forgive myself if I ran away from her last months as our director. (And it could be years, we just know things have really gone downhill since the beginning of this year particularly -- slow down hill for 3-4 years, nosedive since January.) <br /><br />The one thing I can say that may help explain why so many of us are in this place RIGHT NOW is that there actually are studies showing that the rapid change of light in March because of Daylight savings and the approaching solstice can make March as bad for some of us who tend toward anxiety/depression as November is (for those in Northern Hemisphere). I've realized recently that that's at least a part of why this time of year is harder for me to handle. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-33638000720728631582014-03-13T23:39:50.247-04:002014-03-13T23:39:50.247-04:00Yes. Thank you.Yes. Thank you.Kathleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-8062637375755765512014-03-13T15:08:05.120-04:002014-03-13T15:08:05.120-04:00This happens to me all the time. Sometimes, it ove...This happens to me all the time. Sometimes, it over big things, but sometimes, the smallest thing can get me. I'm so glad I'm not alone.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07667302975408011391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-38835103997482691102014-03-13T13:56:56.940-04:002014-03-13T13:56:56.940-04:00I know I'm a little late to the party...but *h...I know I'm a little late to the party...but *hugs for you*. Don't sweat the small stuff love. I have a similar issue in that I over - analyze every. little. situation., for good or for bad. Doing this keeps me from being present all of the time in my own life. When I catch myself doing it, I take a deep breath and remind myself that today is the only "today" that I'm going to have. Tomorrow is a new one, but is neither promised or guaranteed to me. So I shake it off and tell myself "no more!". And just that moment of reflection is often enough for the rest of the day. I also have a phenomenal husband who helps snap me out of it from time to time too, or just tells me I'm being silly and I trust in him that I am. I wish us, all of us, anyone who has commented that they feel the same/similar, a sigh of relief today in all aspects of our lives. Whether it's a project, or simply life itself bringing you down. Chins up! Let us all enjoy the ride while we can. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10473231743467770111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-64810422502216275482014-03-13T00:38:03.125-04:002014-03-13T00:38:03.125-04:00I had a rage-quit moment last week, unfortunately ...I had a rage-quit moment last week, unfortunately I was at work. I literally threw my hands up and said (out loud and everything) "I can't take this anymore, I am going on my break" and walked out of the room. Then I closed myself in our staff room, ate my snack, and took a few breaths. I was much calmer when I went back, albeit a bit embarrassed. <br /><br />Jen, I admire you for putting yourself out there and facilitating these conversations. It really does help remind us that we (none of us) are in this alone. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17885734517396951368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-55831924881030478732014-03-11T23:22:48.758-04:002014-03-11T23:22:48.758-04:00Oh, yeah. I am an elementary school teacher, and ...Oh, yeah. I am an elementary school teacher, and I know EXACTLY what you mean. I see it in myself: one day I feel like I ROCK and am the best second grade teacher the world has ever known. MAN, those kids are lucky to have me this year. The next day? I lose my cool, can't teach addition and am exhausted by morning recess. I waste a lot of time dissecting my failures. <br /><br />I see it in my kiddos too - they go from exaltation at succeeding at folding a paper boat to despairing at addition... all in a day. <br /><br />I think it's reality, but I am trying to live transparently in front of them. I make a big point of asking for forgiveness when I mess up, and they are learning to do the same thing. If we can all learn that by June I will be pretty happy.<br /><br />Hang in there, peeps. We're human.Susan Greer Bowennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-13164148885215340832014-03-11T17:26:34.708-04:002014-03-11T17:26:34.708-04:00I just want to rage quit everything right now. Gl...I just want to rage quit everything right now. Glad I am not alone.LutherLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10949785104237442171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-7187539358564472442014-03-11T17:05:59.635-04:002014-03-11T17:05:59.635-04:00Yes, this is me, too. I take on too much, then get...Yes, this is me, too. I take on too much, then get overwhelmed, then procrastinate and put things off because I don't even want to think of all the work that has to get done, then wake up in a panic at 4 a.m. because I have put things off, then get overwhelmed again and think I'm a failure. It's a vicious cycle. <br />I posted this link to The Onion on my FB page recently: <br />http://www.theonion.com/articles/report-today-the-day-they-find-out-youre-a-fraud,35133/<br />because this is how I feel much of the time--that "they" are going to find out I'm not all that great. I'm not sure who "they" is but "they" take up a lot of my emotional energy and make me feel pretty lousy.<br />So, thanks, Jen--and others on this list. Why are we all so hard on ourselves? FMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-86428235351155702452014-03-10T18:36:15.817-04:002014-03-10T18:36:15.817-04:00Usually when I am beginning to feel the urge to ra...Usually when I am beginning to feel the urge to rage quit, I excuse myself and make a cup of tea. It is a silly little thing, but it removes me (physically and mentally) from the situation and gives me a bit of perspective. Even a tiny bit of perspective can be enough to keep from pitching a fit. Sometimes I come back ready to get back to work (often having a clever new idea about how to approach the moments-ago insurmountable problem), sometimes the project gets put on the hate-shelf (especially if it HAS to get done, but I just can't handle working on it right now). And sometimes, I just effing quit. If it is not important and it is making me crazy, that's why dumpsters were invented. I find the worst thing to do is try to push through if a project needs some time to mellow out on the hate-shelf or needs to meet its demise. The Incredible M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14032333293812045281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-68642864186749637042014-03-10T14:41:00.777-04:002014-03-10T14:41:00.777-04:00I didn't know that term, but I do it all the t...I didn't know that term, but I do it all the time. Sometimes it's when everything I try to get done takes 3 times longer than it should, when something goes wrong with everything I try to do. But lots of times, it's just dealing with my normal everyday life. I'm always behind on what I should be doing, and it's so much easier to not even try than to keep trying to catch up and continually fail. So, I go on facebook, check email, surf the internet. All the while, I'm making it that much harder to actually catch up. I recognize it's not that smart, but sometimes life is so hard to just keep doing when you can't see any progress.Sarah H.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-20716504456026572922014-03-10T12:38:19.443-04:002014-03-10T12:38:19.443-04:00Hate it when you've pulled it together, then a...Hate it when you've pulled it together, then another kabloooie! <br /><br />Here is a big hug for you -- Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339892460543909351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-16668836602240005782014-03-10T10:29:43.398-04:002014-03-10T10:29:43.398-04:00Ha! This made me laugh so I drew a stick person ra...Ha! This made me laugh so I drew a stick person rage-quilting. Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08232031591217621110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-72633884124738894892014-03-10T09:58:02.384-04:002014-03-10T09:58:02.384-04:00I just wanted to add my voice to all the rest sayi...I just wanted to add my voice to all the rest saying thank you - I hope you have some inkling of how much difference you make to people across the world (but hopefully not in an overwhelming way!) I've had a tough couple of months and recently started self-harming again in my own form of rage-quitting, but this post really helped me see that, though I really need to get back to better coping mechanisms, maybe I'm not a total loon :S<br /><br />Reading this site (and the comments beneath) makes me think of a quote from Alan Bennett (UK author/playwright, wrote The History Boys etc) - it's 'as if a hand has come out, and taken yours'. Epot is definitely the safest, warmest place on the internet!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-86045231577447967032014-03-09T22:18:59.947-04:002014-03-09T22:18:59.947-04:00oh Jen, i feel you.
My life is so topsy-turvey lat...oh Jen, i feel you.<br />My life is so topsy-turvey lately that i bounce from Rage Quit to Apathy Whimper every day.<br />We all need to forgive ourselves and extend the grace to ourselves that we freely give to our friends.<br />Take care.Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10579637769499759898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-75030247454581787342014-03-09T20:12:36.864-04:002014-03-09T20:12:36.864-04:00Have you been spying on me? Because this post seri...Have you been spying on me? Because this post seriously sounds like it was written about me. XD From regretting wasting time, to watching too much Netflix, and even eating Oreos for breakfast (literally, I had Golden Chocolate Creme Oreos for breakfast like, yesterday). I've had too many I-give-up days lately, but I just can't seem to find the strength to pull myself out of it. The worst part of that is when it leads to the temptation to literally quit life. I have bipolar disorder and I've been struggling with suicidal thoughts a lot lately. Sometimes it's hard to remember what I am living for. But it really does help to know that I'm not the only one struggling with stuff like this. So thanks for being brave enough to share and give me the chance to say "me too." GeekyGingerGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12195746769283846191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-33158259936687918652014-03-09T17:50:12.427-04:002014-03-09T17:50:12.427-04:00I so needed to read this today. I've been angr...I so needed to read this today. I've been angry all weekend due to things that are beyond my control. I seriously decided to just stop people and stop work and just stop. Ugh. Here's a very loud, "ME TOO!" from my corner.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05528794115926285427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-50220092810702254172014-03-09T17:07:25.753-04:002014-03-09T17:07:25.753-04:00Oh, do I get you. Months ago, I rage-quit the Star...Oh, do I get you. Months ago, I rage-quit the Star Trek role playing forum that I run because too many forces conspired to make me feel like I needed a permanent time-out from people. I didn't think about all those friends I had made, all the members who have been enjoying the RP for over four years, and all the fun we had been having. It was a simple, knee-jerk reaction caused by my overemphasized flight/fight responses. Only when I finally gave in and read the responses from the members did I realize how much they cared about me and how much I would miss the fun. It's easy to rage quit, but much, much harder to come back and say you're sorry. wildmavenhttp://wildmaven.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-84002066932137365862014-03-09T16:34:27.976-04:002014-03-09T16:34:27.976-04:00You mean it's NOT ME JUST BEING ME?.....Oh Hal...You mean it's NOT ME JUST BEING ME?.....Oh Hallelujah. Jen, thank you for your honesty, courage and grace. Consider your self virtually hugged - or back-slapped, or handed a cup of coffee or whatever you need. And give Lily and Tonks a cuddle from me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-46986092147219846032014-03-09T15:58:09.037-04:002014-03-09T15:58:09.037-04:00Beautiful, Jen. Simply beautiful. Beautiful, Jen. Simply beautiful. Sparkle Pantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11065814085944159038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-24548783533804815842014-03-08T16:01:55.346-05:002014-03-08T16:01:55.346-05:00My husband is the super-hero in our combo (ironica...My husband is the super-hero in our combo (ironically, he's also named John), while I am the rage-quitter. I've been trying for YEARS to get my house organized, keep everything and everyone clean, do my projects, and in general just keep going. My husband on the other hand, works 80+ hours a week, and Just. Keeps. Going.<br /><br />On occasion we take 'mental health days' where he takes a day off (he gets PTO) and we do something that helps our brains unwind from the twisted string we have going on.<br /><br />And then we keep going. Or he does. I at least try to.Maple Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957916721426943073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-12436545858925739362014-03-08T13:08:40.820-05:002014-03-08T13:08:40.820-05:00I have lived long enough at this point to see how ...I have lived long enough at this point to see how the no-good-guy leaving uncorks LOTS of good things in a woman's life. You were never horrible. Love makes us ALL do silly things. Grieve, lick your wounds, don't spend too much time beating yourself up about it, and get ready to go AWESOME. Often enough, one of the things that sort of guy takes with him when he leaves is your low self esteem. (No, really, how hilarious is that?) Yes, right now can be terribly painful, but it can turn into the best "Time to take out the trash" of your life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com