tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post8176038015004720565..comments2024-03-28T15:36:02.733-04:00Comments on EPBOT: How Much is Too Much? 5 Ways to Avoid Blogger's RemorseJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11888187687405622408noreply@blogger.comBlogger76125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-70200307953864666582013-06-18T12:04:19.060-04:002013-06-18T12:04:19.060-04:00I know that this is late, but I've just starte...I know that this is late, but I've just started a blog (really did JUST start it yesterday) and was looking for tips when I decided to comment.<br /><br />Some of the comments on here remind me of a restaurant owner. Her buisness is Amy's Baking Company (ABC), and she and her husband think that ANYONE who dislikes their food or gives their restaurant a bad review is a "hater." They have a Facebook page and actually had a meltdown on there, then blamed it on someone who had supposedly hacked into their account. You may have heard of them, they were the only restaurant that Gordon Ramsey couldn't save.<br /><br />If you want more information try looking for them on Google. You'll find a LOT of their rants. Goldyfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455143897632637320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-49836111721304051772011-07-22T21:40:25.263-04:002011-07-22T21:40:25.263-04:00Hi Jen!
I always find your posts so down-to-earth...Hi Jen!<br /><br />I always find your posts so down-to-earth. I think the days of crazy oversharing on the regular are over on blogs (yes, I choose to be naive). But I'm also remembering the awful days of the "trainwreck" blog and think things have gotten a teensy bit better! I credit organizations that promote success and collegiality among bloggers as well as posts like this. <br /><br />Sadly I risked alienating a friend of 15 years over politically charged issues I was posting about on facebook, assuming everyone would agree with me. I'm a little more careful now that I know where they are coming from. Over the years we didn't realize how far apart we had become on certain issues. I mean, we both (perhaps misguidedly at the time) voted for Nader in 2000! But, joy of joys friendships evolve and are made stronger and richer by our differences (duh! I swear I fail at maturity). How's that for oversharing? ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-21242595098226295722011-07-18T12:47:43.036-04:002011-07-18T12:47:43.036-04:00this is hard, because people can experience earth-...this is hard, because people can experience earth-shattering things that affect their every waking moment for weeks, months, even years. It's hard NOT to talk about it on your blog. <br /><br />I write a DIY blog, and read a lot of DIY blogs. That being said, I do get turned off with TOO much oversharing. But, I can just scroll through it. People need to be careful, if they are really making $$ on their blog and want to continue to do so, they may turn readers off if they get TOO candid. then again, it's also a matter of "it's your blog, do what you want with it."<br /><br />It's a fine line, I think. I had another blogger friend encourage me to write more about my husband and child on my blog. so I can be more relateable, or something? I err on the side of caution and don't put too much personal stuff on the blog. <br /><br />If I'm reading a DIY blog, I want to read about DIY projects, not a ton of different stuff about their husbands and kids. I feel kind of mean saying that, but there you go.Handy Man, Crafty Womanhttp://www.handymancraftywoman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-75397667351015749532011-07-18T09:53:17.435-04:002011-07-18T09:53:17.435-04:00I don't know if your read him - but Randall ov...I don't know if your read him - but Randall over at xkcd did a nice job of sharing his pain. <a href="http://blog.xkcd.com/2011/06/30/family-illness/" rel="nofollow">Here's his blog post about his fiance's diagnosis with breast cancer.</a> And I like the way he says he had to share this because he wants to be free to write and draw about it later.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-8485475990572463872011-07-14T22:05:17.756-04:002011-07-14T22:05:17.756-04:00I was wondering if maybe you could share more of t...I was wondering if maybe you could share more of the blogs you follow.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590622358995412626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-8735053148957552152011-07-14T17:02:06.707-04:002011-07-14T17:02:06.707-04:00I think that's very sound advice. When I'm...I think that's very sound advice. When I'm going through a rough patch, I tend to not blog about it right away. I'll write about it in my journal by way of getting it out of my system, but I'll wait until I've had time to process things a bit before mentioning it on my blog. And even then, I try to avoid going the TMI route. I do my best to put myself in my readers' shoes and ask myself, "Is this something I'd want to read about?"<br /><br />I definitely agree with you on throwing in a bit of humor/looking on the bright side bit; that really helps (and not just for the readers - helps me not focus solely on the negatives too).Stephaniehttp://livingandthriving.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-63361970224236523312011-07-14T16:11:53.615-04:002011-07-14T16:11:53.615-04:00These 5 things are exactly what I think about ever...These 5 things are exactly what I think about every time I write an email. So even in our personal lives and professional lives as non-bloggers these are things we have to consider because emails are also always for forever.Jennifer A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03030258097154667754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-9140197945624490362011-07-14T12:20:32.717-04:002011-07-14T12:20:32.717-04:00**sniff** and this is why I love reading both you...**sniff** and this is why I love reading both your sites Jen! As someone who just recently started blogging - I've kept it a private one, for the reasons you talked about. It is my outlet to purge the raw emotions and I can publish the post as soon as I've written in. There's a small satisfaction in seeing it... and even better going back months later and re-reading it, seeing the problem through calmer, clearer emotions.... <br /><br />Keep up the great work!! No matter what, you have a very loyal reader on this end!! <br /><br />((hugs))<br />Christina in Windsor ONChristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01173587265542509927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-73418828047072118862011-07-14T09:58:09.531-04:002011-07-14T09:58:09.531-04:00Very good thoughts. I see the same thing happen o...Very good thoughts. I see the same thing happen on web forums a fair amount--folks post a comment in the heat of the moment, then realize two hours and one firestorm later that they either A. really should have read the rest of the conversation first, or B. really should have thought about how those words would sound to someone else.<br />Among quakers, we often speak of a similar process as folks discern when to speak out of the silence in Meeting for Worship.<br />Don't worry, i'm not gonna get all hyper-religious here. I was just going to mention one of the parts of that discernment, where you try to figure out if the message you've been given is mostly for you or mostly for the group. Sometimes i have thoughts that i need to write down to get them out of my head...but having written them, i'm at peace and i don't need those thoughts to be shared. And sometimes it's anough to vent to an uninvolved friend and i don't need to post that scathing reply to the group.stitchedwithcolorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16980006011170418484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-3112110700788184732011-07-13T22:55:42.688-04:002011-07-13T22:55:42.688-04:00Love your advice, a few years ago I started readin...Love your advice, a few years ago I started reading Finslippy. I had recently experienced a miscarriage and reading her words as she went through the same thing was just what I needed to hear. Heartbreaking, sprinkled with a little bit of comedy, perfect!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15871664719387708959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-19782020002478126432011-07-13T20:32:44.983-04:002011-07-13T20:32:44.983-04:00Excellent advice, both from you, Jen, and from fol...Excellent advice, both from you, Jen, and from follow commenters. I started a blog recently and have been tempted to vent there because I don't think anyone will ever read it anyway! But then, I realize that I might be wrong about that; stranger things have happened.zoomomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01774339688694545597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-65094601510849729212011-07-13T20:26:15.968-04:002011-07-13T20:26:15.968-04:00I would say that sadness is a part of the human ex...I would say that sadness is a part of the human experience and there is nothing wrong with the need to share it..send it out in the void...seek compassion even from strangers...I agree with your advice and wanted to say that as a reader, if you don't share than how do we know when to lend a hand or heart or ear? :)Shannonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-16881735279486138082011-07-13T20:12:28.131-04:002011-07-13T20:12:28.131-04:00What a great post! Thank you! As a blogger I stru...What a great post! Thank you! As a blogger I struggle with having a readership and I also struggle with words. I am not a witty writer, I just want to help people find ways to live healthier. I am often afraid of just posting information so I will instead rely on others posts, articles and videos to say it. I need to reach out and open myself up to people in order to achieve my goals. This is one post I am going to print and reread many times!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797537055547708449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-60927672433439775522011-07-13T18:44:52.874-04:002011-07-13T18:44:52.874-04:00Is there some way you could alter that for my “adu...Is there some way you could alter that for my “adult” daughter to apply to facebook?<br />That would be a big help.<br />Thanks!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-81717595814848674932011-07-13T17:11:41.909-04:002011-07-13T17:11:41.909-04:00The tip I would add: If you are doing something ne...The tip I would add: If you are doing something nefarious that is illegal or borderline unethical, don't blog about it in the hopes that others will see your point and take your side. <br /><br />While this would seem to go without saying, you can't fix stupid. I had a friend that was trying to (intentionally or no, I was never able to figure out) bilk the welfare system and complained about how they were "cheating her" on her blog. A couple of her friends supported her, which shocked me. I sent her a private email explaining that what she was doing was tantamount to fraud and perhaps posting it on a public forum was not the best choice. She did eventually remove the post, but she lost her benefits appeal. What was used as evidence at her court hearing? Yep. Her blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-89571082872837241682011-07-13T15:42:36.351-04:002011-07-13T15:42:36.351-04:00This is why I don't blog anymore. I went throu...This is why I don't blog anymore. I went through some rough stuff in my life and I knew I couldn't fake like everything was okay and I also knew I didn't want to write about it (and people wouldn't want to read about it.)<br /><br />I hope everything okay with you, Jen and John!A.J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-8128720178085084722011-07-13T15:06:42.955-04:002011-07-13T15:06:42.955-04:00For a long time, I didn't "get" the ...For a long time, I didn't "get" the purpose of blogs, and disdained them. Then I stumbled across one that entertained me (and I have no idea what that first blog was. It could have been CW!) Now I have a few that I read with varying degrees of faithfulness--CW, Epbot, My Year with the Mouse, Bakingdom and Jorge Garcia's (from LOST) blog (most of which evolved from reading CW.) I have others bookmarked, mostly recipe blogs, but I just don't have the time or interest to read them all. <br /><br />I'll check out CaringBridge sites for people I know who are undergoing medical issues, but it never occurred to me to do the same when I was going through minor cancer. I'm not a blogger--I don't feel that I have anything entertaining to say, and crumble under pressure, anyway--but your guidelines are also good for emails. Many times I've composed an angry, sarcastic email (mostly to my son's teachers) only to let it rest, then re-read it and edit it later. <br /><br />Personally, I don't mind knowing more about those whose blogs I read, up to a point. By that I mean that knowing a little about personal triumphs and struggles helps me to get to "know" them and care more about what they have to say, without venturing into the TMI zone. I am also a prayer--a pray-er?--and often include online friends in those prayers. I have a friend who doesn't believe in prayer, but knows that I do, and is willing to let me pray for and about her. I think that's awesome.Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208122459939892231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-11255129799193095402011-07-13T14:35:02.841-04:002011-07-13T14:35:02.841-04:00I wish someone would explain the TMI thing to my S...I wish someone would explain the TMI thing to my SIL, who blogs mostly about my nephews. I want to know about them but not about, say, her latest UTI.bccnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-58862767984079102412011-07-13T14:31:01.072-04:002011-07-13T14:31:01.072-04:00P.S....I still think about Sweet Baby James!!P.S....I still think about Sweet Baby James!!Betty Martinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-7952306165202877742011-07-13T14:28:11.216-04:002011-07-13T14:28:11.216-04:00I think you do great. Is that person with the bre...I think you do great. Is that person with the break up and the infidelity who I think it is? <br /><br />I don't know...I'm not into blogging personally, but I love to write. I follow both of your blogs, and The Pioneer Woman's blog, but that's it. I write in blank books and it's the only way I can clear out my brain. My son told me I should write a book, but the stuff I write is too personal, it's really for me alone and I'm not ready to share with the world, and doubt if I ever will be.<br /><br />BUT, what turns me off a potential blog or bit of writing is the mistakes...bad grammar, bad spelling...bad sentence structure. I guess that goes without saying? But it's impossible to see past the mistakes to makes sense of what was attempted to being said in the writing. (How's THAT for sentence construction???)Betty Martinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-72234307995213894902011-07-13T13:43:29.193-04:002011-07-13T13:43:29.193-04:00I'm involved with three blogs at the moment. ...I'm involved with three blogs at the moment. Most stuff is straighforward and goes straight online or as a scheduled-post. Drafts are usually things which need polishing, notes for expansion into an article, or things to sleep on for rereading. I recently had a "life event" and have managed to keep it out of the blogs simply because it's totally off-topic. That's easier to do when blogs are tightly focused on one subject than when they have broader topics or a chatty personal style which tends to include personal details.Rain Barrel Collectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10837980539413012624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-77551830233939193792011-07-13T13:32:02.394-04:002011-07-13T13:32:02.394-04:00This is why I don't blog.
Well, I do - I have...This is why I don't blog.<br /><br />Well, I do - I have a historical blog about soldiers in the Civil War - but why I don't air my personal stuff on the Internet.<br /><br />I have friends for that. And while some of my friends are people I've met online - hey, it's the 21st century - I still don't relate personal crap until I know them better.<br /><br />I really don't understand the need for airing one's private matters in public. You wouldn't go to the mall and stand on the fountain and shout out your woes, would you?<br /><br />The Internet is far more public than that, and it's <i>forever</i>.<br /><br />So while I think this a good list of how to air your private matters in public, I still wonder why so many people feel the need to do so.Kate Halleronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08097028157969058637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-26425915562746584352011-07-13T13:07:18.085-04:002011-07-13T13:07:18.085-04:00To morph a quote from a man with a groundhog in hi...To morph a quote from a man with a groundhog in his lap, "Don't write angry!"Mary B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10378567309895085081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-73410931757600491982011-07-13T13:06:25.745-04:002011-07-13T13:06:25.745-04:00I generally don't post about the serious stuff...I generally don't post about the serious stuff. My blog is my controllable space where everything smells of vanilla and cinnamon and I don't have to let out that I currently have a rash that makes me look like the elephant man.<br /><br />On the other hand, if I let out some of the tension in my writing, maybe I wouldn't have a rash that makes me look like the elephant man. Something for me to ponder!Alicia Foodycathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11931796992646884249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-68512356755088592762011-07-13T13:00:56.503-04:002011-07-13T13:00:56.503-04:00my advice would be (to the proverbial "you&qu...my advice would be (to the proverbial "you"): as a blogger you're likely not a journalist or a whistle blower; so don't write an emotional post to point fingers and name names. Depending on what it's about, it's a good way for you to lose a lot more than an audience. You could lose your day job, your friends, your family... So, I totally agree with the advice of writing now and deciding later.Beccanoreply@blogger.com