tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post1041523628505140875..comments2024-03-28T15:36:02.733-04:00Comments on EPBOT: My Husband, The CriminalJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11888187687405622408noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-42196518816802132582013-01-30T16:05:47.120-05:002013-01-30T16:05:47.120-05:00I didn't know until recently that in Spain a w...I didn't know until recently that in Spain a woman doesn't change her name so her name is always different to her children. A child has two surnames: father and mother, no hyphen, just two surnames. Apparently it is easy to check lineage in Spain for that reason. I think they drop one when they have kids so the male name carries on.Saima's Salonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06460496940456628090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-80523703383642495332013-01-30T13:11:04.764-05:002013-01-30T13:11:04.764-05:00Geeze O Pete. Seems to me that the DMV let him mak...Geeze O Pete. Seems to me that the DMV let him make a change that wasn't in accordance with FL law and then tried to punish the poor man for the DMV's error.<br /><br />In Oregon, we learned that while you can call yourself anything you like as long as there is no intent to defraud, you do have to go through the legal process to make it all official with DMV and social security. Like Florida, a woman can get a free name change by using the marriage certificate to adopt her husband's last name. If you both want to take a new last name (which we did), the cheapest way is to have the man legally change his (under $200 in the county we were in at the time) and then for the woman to adopt it via marriage certificate. <br /><br />It's stupid and archaic but it is the way the law is written. For the record I also think that it is stupid that you have to have a licensed minister perform the ceremony if you want it to be the legal ceremony and you don't want it at the courthouse. Archaic! <br /><br />I get why there is a fee - I work with data and in the older systems that our government has getting a change made and then perpetuated across all systems is a time consuming pain in the ass. Also a reasonable fee stops people doing recreational name changes. It's Tuesday, I feel like being a Martha. $400 seems way way unreasonable. EvieKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09844933046492564201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-12682825903364677462013-01-30T12:36:22.631-05:002013-01-30T12:36:22.631-05:00I have a strong feeling that the reason this happe...I have a strong feeling that the reason this happened was that their "foreign sounding names" and countries of birth were the things that raised red flags during some sort of search of DMV records. The fact that he took his wife's name happens to be a coincidence really and the fact that the DMV made a big deal about it just dumb. In the end, none of it was right though and I'm glad that everything was fixed in the couples favor.auroragypshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118894253957925086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-69910594087743946512013-01-30T12:02:16.624-05:002013-01-30T12:02:16.624-05:00So glad they dropped the charges 15 years ago when...So glad they dropped the charges 15 years ago when I married my husband I changed my name by moving my maiden name to my middle name and taking his as my last. He wanted to do the same but was told he would have to go through the legal name change bit so he didn't. Oh well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13764319394920779007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-86760771227416631822013-01-30T11:32:03.813-05:002013-01-30T11:32:03.813-05:00Oh Lordy! This has been the biggest and most contr...Oh Lordy! This has been the biggest and most controversial issue since I've been married. I my family I did not desire to simply take my husband's last name, as I didn't expect him to take mine. So we decided to fuse our last names according to cultural tradition. I am of Mexican descent and he's of German descent, so I was fine doing Haro de Mogel or Haro von Mogel. We went with Haro von Mogel. People either LOVE or HATE this name. They think it's the most awesome or disrespectful thing we could have done as a couple. Unfortunately, lots of people, including my in-laws, think my husband is insulting his family line by doing so and being "controlled" by a woman by agreeing to go along with such nonsense. It's clearly not nonsense since it angers people so much. We live in a new century where women are making so many inroads - it's about time society/government/legal system caught up!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18046974853726491407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-19424417476507108122013-01-30T10:59:44.134-05:002013-01-30T10:59:44.134-05:00We have a criminal at our house too. I had legally...We have a criminal at our house too. I had legally changed my surname when I was in high school (long story) and so I didn't want to give it up when I got married. Jason willingly hyphenated his name so that we could all have the same name, and even Andrea's name is hyphenated. <br /><br />The only flack we ever got was at the Social Security office when we were both applying for new cards. The woman was confused because "only the wife gets a new card because her name changed." When we said his name changed too, we had to explain it three times because she did NOT understand why a man would change his name when he got married. But she was old and we were in Iowa, so frankly I'm surprised that was the only issue we had.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-54740676028707350142013-01-30T09:15:51.463-05:002013-01-30T09:15:51.463-05:00OMG, really glad they took care of that.
My husba...OMG, really glad they took care of that.<br /><br />My husband was pretty close to taking my name- but I was too cheap to let him (because as was explained to me by our State of Residence, only women can change their names for free due to marriage- and that's a whole different story of annoyance/patriarchy).<br /><br />Anyhow, to sum up: Yay, John! Glad FL fixed that ridiculous oversight.rissykay99https://www.blogger.com/profile/17905770767878526047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-62814725381087036432013-01-30T07:42:47.556-05:002013-01-30T07:42:47.556-05:00Wow. That is such a ridiculous story, but I'm ...Wow. That is such a ridiculous story, but I'm glad to hear it turned out alright. My mom kept her maiden name when she married my dad for what I would consider very important reasons; she was a chemist, and she was published, and how in Hades was anyone supposed to connect the unmarried individual with the married one if she changed her name and later published under it? Previous academic activities become harder to connect to the same person, and that's just not fair to the scientist or other people looking for older works by the same person. Of course, that's not going to be a problem in just science, but her earlier accomplishments were important to her, and why destroy the continuity? Of course, my dad has recently run into the problems with name changes with regards to his high school reunion; they've asked all the women to provide their maiden names, so they know who they are!<br /><br />My mom would also joke, when asked about it, that she let my dad keep his maiden name, and while some people expressed concern for his feelings, they really shouldn't have; he didn't care. And I think that if you're marrying someone, you love the person, not the name. The name is irrelevant.<br /><br />Granted, not everyone thinks so, and enter the assistant manager of a small bank. My mother did not suffer fools gladly, and he was one, so conflict was inevitable. My parents were getting a loan for a car and he insisted that she had to sign with my dad's last name. My mom knew this was not so and told him that if she did that, she would have officially taken his last name and would have to use it for everything from that point forth, which she didn't want to do. He was dismissive and said it was fine, she could still go back as if nothing had changed. He was dead wrong: she had <i>on her person</i> a letter from the Status of Women Office. It stated that under the laws at the time a woman could keep her maiden name if she so chose, but if she changed it to her husband's, she could <b>never go back</b>. She could change her name to literally anything else later on, but she could not go back to her maiden name(stupid, I know, but that's what the laws said then). If she signed under his name then, that would become her legal name, she knew it, and she wasn't putting up with that guy's BS. Since the manager was out getting his appendix dealt with, they couldn't bring it to him and the guy wouldn't back down. Needless to say, my parents left. My mom later blew off steam by throwing tupperware in the shower in her patented brand of terrifyingly angry.<br /><br />I'm glad at least some brands of ridiculous are out of fashion, but I guess we humans never totally get it out of our system.Sari Evernahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16205658693743674046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-26165829263584810732013-01-30T06:44:12.933-05:002013-01-30T06:44:12.933-05:00I wonder what they will do with same-sex couples.....I wonder what they will do with same-sex couples...BellaMoccianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-26315811674170642132013-01-30T05:18:03.110-05:002013-01-30T05:18:03.110-05:00Nice to see the government still ascribes to the c...Nice to see the government still ascribes to the chauvanistic idea that a woman takes a man's name, and a man NEVER takes a woman's name. It's that kind of paternalistic bullsh*t that made me choose my own last name, that is neither my partners not my father's. I like the idea of creating your own identity. And I take my hat off to any man who chooses his wife's name. It is a true show of love and respect, and they should be congratulated for it!Laura Morriganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402692693911867276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-50110618656084811772013-01-29T23:47:43.548-05:002013-01-29T23:47:43.548-05:00My step-brother took his wife's name, Dragon, ...My step-brother took his wife's name, Dragon, when he got married. His biodad was an asshat, so no loss giving up that name, and who could pass on the name Dragon?margarethttp://twistedcistern.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-50813902610124098762013-01-29T23:28:28.028-05:002013-01-29T23:28:28.028-05:00I was glad to get rid of my maiden name. It was a...I was glad to get rid of my maiden name. It was a Hedgepeth. No one could spell it or pronounce it. Nothing beats my daughter-in-law though, her maiden name was Dick.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-58051104869249948602013-01-29T22:34:52.172-05:002013-01-29T22:34:52.172-05:00My husband took my name. He'd always wanted to...My husband took my name. He'd always wanted to mark a major life event with a name change. I liked my name, so it was easy. It was 2005 in Cincinnati. We were sitting in the office getting our marriage license and the woman behind the desk said I could write in my new name if I was taking his. I said, "I'm not. He's the one changing his name." She told us, "Well, you can't do that on this form. Only the woman can change her last name with the marriage license." We were shocked because we'd thought that a marriage license would be the cheap and easy route to a new name for him. Apparently there was no way to legally change his name by getting married--or for both of us to change our last names together, if that's what we wanted. <br /><br />For anything other than the woman changing her last name to her husband's, you had to go through the legal name change procedure in court. So, my husband did it, including a preliminary hearing, an ad in a paper, and a final appearance before a judge. We were worried that the judge would give my husband a hard time, but the judge accepted my husband's explanation, "I just want my last name to match my wife's."<br /><br />I'm just so glad that each couple has options now and can pick the one that fits them best--different last names, her last name, his last name, a new last name, whatever!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13029147267195224665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-47211678594666677462013-01-29T22:26:45.064-05:002013-01-29T22:26:45.064-05:00Well, that is silly. In Québec, you need a special...Well, that is silly. In Québec, you need a special request to even change your name now, once you marry, so women keep their maiden names even once they are married. But telemarketers don't know how to deal with this (it has been the law for over 30 years). Since the phone is in my name, they ask for Mr or Mrs [my last name] and I always tease my spouse.Gwenyverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00464044086108108565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-27294423734983482172013-01-29T21:01:16.198-05:002013-01-29T21:01:16.198-05:00My husband and I combined our names but didn't...My husband and I combined our names but didn't hyphenate. We simply have 2 names. We had no trouble until he went to get his new license 3 years later and was told he had broken the law by not getting it legally changed by a judge. He pointed out that we had gone to social security and changed them together after we were married and was told that it was fine for me but not for him. How sexist is that? He was granted his license but told to fix it immediately. It has been 7 years and he has never heard another word about it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09074367753379797173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-12126275720062309302013-01-29T20:12:06.629-05:002013-01-29T20:12:06.629-05:00@ Nuchtchas - did you say that in Quebec a woman i...@ Nuchtchas - did you say that in Quebec a woman is NOT ALLOWED to change her name to her husband's? It's one thing to say she doesn't HAVE to change her name to her husband's if she doesn't want to. But to FORBID her from doing it at all is...I don't even have a word for how bizare that is! MichelleHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15620214611586302175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-48499614503810361802013-01-29T18:47:48.552-05:002013-01-29T18:47:48.552-05:00Have a client who changed his name to F . Called h...Have a client who changed his name to F . Called himself effdot. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14407122540422211028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-59116568478186092552013-01-29T17:21:22.446-05:002013-01-29T17:21:22.446-05:00I swear, so many people forget that it is 2013 and...I swear, so many people forget that it is 2013 and not 1913! I had a hard time with the credit card company because my husband and I don't have the same last names. I had to talk to a supervisor to get my issue resolved. Really? Last I checked, a wife was no longer the property of her husband!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16655264619064043940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-56733029492705092472013-01-29T17:01:05.831-05:002013-01-29T17:01:05.831-05:00GIRL.
Your husband = the awesomest.
Just sayin...GIRL.<br />Your husband = the awesomest.<br /><br />Just sayin'.<br /><br />Keep it up, Yates folks!TBAHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07889621915069523746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-61688145496071650892013-01-29T16:50:40.416-05:002013-01-29T16:50:40.416-05:00Good lord, Florida must be brain-damaged. $400 fil...Good lord, Florida must be brain-damaged. $400 filing fee to change your name? That's absurd. In Kansas, the process to legally change your name consists of the following steps:<br /><br />1) Start using the new name.<br /><br />That's it. Federal offices didn't give us any guff. The DMV was a little confused and wanted paperwork for the legal name change until we showed them chapter and verse of the state law. Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09407334782550828193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-61340001838419046632013-01-29T16:44:58.449-05:002013-01-29T16:44:58.449-05:00According to my step-father who is an attorney in ...According to my step-father who is an attorney in Oregon. "As long as you are not trying to deceive, defraud, or use an alias in an attempt to conceal yourself you can use or go by what ever name you want." Meaning that either of you could have changed your name and called yourselves Jango and Bob Afett as long as you stick with it. And any bills you generate under those names get paid. Best time to do a name change is when you marry, since the paper work is less involved and you don't have to formally ask a judge to grant the change. Just my two cents...Steve Hnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-56298818106720928982013-01-29T16:33:24.690-05:002013-01-29T16:33:24.690-05:00My husband took my name when we got married, too. ...My husband took my name when we got married, too. We were living in Utah at the time (long story) and he did have to go to court to make it "official"--but then it was 1985 and apparently things like that weren't "done" then (or there). Frankly, I always forget. It was a long time ago and who cares anyway? FMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-15490977257160841092013-01-29T16:20:04.329-05:002013-01-29T16:20:04.329-05:00I kept my last name when I got married. My husband...I kept my last name when I got married. My husband was supportive and rational enough not to insist I become his property, which is how this tradition started. Women left the protection of their father and his name for her husband, with his name. Before women could own property or vote, this was important. However, that is no longer an issue, and many other countries no longer follow this antiquated practice. That being said, I did have to explain my choice to my dad of all people, and my mother in law still addresses cards to mr and mrs not my name. We won't be having kids, so it's really not an issue. It's time for society and government to catch up!Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15646500641473558200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-91585146121068268282013-01-29T16:14:57.120-05:002013-01-29T16:14:57.120-05:00Really, that's legally ridiculous. As long as...Really, that's legally ridiculous. As long as people are using legal avenues and showing a clear path of changes, they should be able to pay fees and change names for reasons even outside of marriage. Big Brother can still track people with a different name if they are registered legally. What's their problem, then?Mishqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16857513494635964672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1724594058209899258.post-4304487719448279022013-01-29T16:13:38.664-05:002013-01-29T16:13:38.664-05:00I love living in Florida, but sometimes I just hav...I love living in Florida, but sometimes I just have to shake my head.Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09534785137235537743noreply@blogger.com