Saturday, May 2, 2015

John Made Me Cry Today, And He Doesn't Even Know It

John's been sick this week, so it's been kinda quiet over here as he sleeps and sniffles the days away. (I would say it's "just" a head cold, but given the sonic boom quality of his rapid fire sneezes, there is no "just.") He always insists on sleeping on the couch when he's sick, and growls angrily if I get too close to "the contagion zone," no matter how hard I roll my eyes.

Today John started to feel slightly human again, so I tried to convince him to sleep in the bed for the afternoon. "I'm not even in there," I said, "You won't get me sick! Just go!" In answer he scowled, and in a tone of utmost exasperation, said this:

"Do you know how often I wish I could take things for you?" He motioned to my corset. "The painful periods, the times you're sick, the anxiety attacks? Do you know how often I ask God to give me those things, instead of you? So no, I'm not sleeping in the bed. I'm not getting you sick. I'm taking this one."

Then he sneezed, and flumped back down on the couch, and completely missed all these tears.

I love you, Sweetie. Feel better soon.

97 comments:

  1. Oh wow. Now I'M in tears. So sweet.

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  2. How freaking sweet! Damn him. Now I need a tissue.

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  3. I don't even have words. Totally brought me to tears. Jen you are one lucky woman.

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  4. Yup. Crying with you. He's a keeper. Off to find kleenex.

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  5. What a doll...good partners are really the sweetest part of life!

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  6. John is a mensch. Thank you for sharing this sweet moment with us!

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  7. Nope, not crying. I just chopped onions in a dust storm, that's all.

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  8. love. twue love.

    p.s. bawling with you

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  9. love. twue love.

    p.s. bawling with you

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  10. Dear God, Clone this man. That's all. Amen.

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  11. Definite tears right now.

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  12. You got a good one, Jen. But then, you guys are a matched set. ;)

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  13. Stephanie Going CoastalMay 3, 2015 at 12:48 AM

    Oh wow. . . someone is cutting onions in here, yup onions... ;)

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  14. Awww. Yep, definitely made me cry too. Hope he feels better soon!

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  15. Wow. Greater love has no man than this, that he lay down his life for his friend. John 15:13. :)

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  16. Drat you John!! Make me cry!!! What a great guy!! Feel better soon!

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  17. So many feels! Your husband is an amazing man.
    Feel better soon, John!

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  18. And now I'm crying. What a wonderful guy. You two are a lovely couple. Hope he's feeling better soon & that all his sacrifice keeps you healthy.

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  19. *wails* That is the sweetest thing I have ever heard.

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  20. And I was just saying that I hadn't cried today yet... Thanks for ruining that record, Jen. You and John are both such wonderful people and you deserve each other. Thank you for giving this hopeless romantic hope. <3

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  21. John, God gave you to Jen! So He did give you all those things too, and from what Jen has shared, you are ROCKING the whole life partner thing. Jen, thanks so much for sharing this story. Yes, I am crying as I type. I'm so happy for you both. <3

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  22. That is lovely. How wonderful to be loved so well.

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  23. So very, very sweet. A good memory to hold on to for a future bad day.

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  24. So sweet! I love when you write about John.

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  25. Thank you, Jen. And thank you, John. Be well, both of you!

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  26. sniffle. that was the sweetest ever!

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  27. dangit, he made ME cry!! He's a keeper for SURE. :) Give him a hug from all his fans for us, eh? :D

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  28. And John proves once again that he is made of awesome. Hugs to you both. Feel better soon, John! :)

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  29. Oh so much happy to read this first thing in the morning. For myself I am going with the whole permissive will and choosing to be single for reasons. But when I read about guys like Johni get misty eyed and wish I could be as lucky. Jen you rock. John rocks. I feel very blessed just to read this blog. Sending get well thoughts to john get better man!

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  30. John wins the Internet! Thru my own tears, I'm sending him a godd star.

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  31. I did not shed a little tear over this. Nope that's just dust in my eye. Seriously that is so sweet.

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  32. John is an amazing guy. But then you are pretty amazing yourself. I was a total failure at the whole couple hood thing do I readily admire the ones who make it work.

    Also, have you looked at getting a Mirena? My Doc told me I was not a candidate for a hysto but recommended I try it. The adjustment period sucked but now I'm almost completely period and pain free.

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    1. I haven't looked at that one, no, but I had such bad reactions to hormones & birth control (back when I was on them) that I'm wary of trying them again. :/ I had the ablation, which helped, and I'm doing pretty well managing the pain with just a corset and occasional Tylenol. (I've also heard fixing my thyroid stuff can help, so fingers crossed on that, too.)

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    2. They make a non-hormonal one, made of copper. I liked mine for a while but then I got WORSE periods, so it didn't last long for me, but just so you know there's an option!

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  33. You're a good man, John Yates! Thanks for being so good to Jen, because we all love her too!

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  34. John made me cry today too. What a wonderful guy he is, and I'm sure you deserve him as much as he deserves you.

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  35. Add me to the list of "John made me cry too!" Aww...I hope I can find a guy like that. Also, whenever I eventually meet you guys (I plan on going to Dragon*Con eventually and I will HUNT YOU DOWN...actually, that came out looking way creepier than it sounded in my head...), I am going to give him a giant bearhug. Because he is awesome. I'll give you one too, because you're awesome as well, of course, but...I'm gonna end this comment now, I'm sounding increasingly creepy (in my defense, just worked a twelve-hour, overnight shift, and about to get a few hours of sleep before I do it again, so a little loopy right now...).

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  36. Oh my gosh, I'm crying. So sweet. Where can I find a John???! You two are just precious!

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  37. man those were some strong onions ya'll are cutting out there in cyberspace.... *sniff* no i am NOT crying.... *sniff sniff* when he feels better, give him a hug from all of us :)

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  38. OH MY GOSH! I'm actually tearing up and I never cry. Group hug!

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  39. You have a good egg. :) I love your love.

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  40. It just got a little dusty in here. That's it, I'm sure it's dust in my eyes. What a wonderful man you have there Jen. You're very lucky, and it makes me happy to hear a story of true love in action.

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  41. Oh my gosh, he's made me cry! Moments like those reveal his true soul! So happy for you. =D

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  42. Now that's a great guy. You guys are too cute! That's what (geek) love should be!

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  43. What a wonderful guy! What a blessing to have all the support and love you have! For my birthday, my husband woke me up, hugged me and said "April 23, 1963 was the best day of my life and I didn't even know it." Made me all misty...I hope that John feels better soon!

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  44. That brought tears to my eyes too! Wishing John a speedy recovery.

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  45. I hope John feels better soon. You are both blessed to have each other. He is a good man, and you are so sweet together.

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  46. Awww! So sweet! Get better soon John!

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  47. You're both wonderful people and you bring a lot of people a lot of happiness. You both inspire folks who otherwise would have felt alone or that there was no hope. I first found you because of a book you helped create for a little girl who needed encouragement and you've only gotten more encouraging since then. You are both kind, good, wonderful people and I'm so grateful you both exist. Please know how very worth it you are. That goes out to EVERYone reading my post. You are all so very worth it. Please don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Please know there are people out there who care and that there is hope. Don't ever give up on yourselves.

    May love be your guide & serendipity your constant companion.

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  48. Ah, what a sweetheart. He's a keeper. I hope he feels better soon!

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  49. Aww, that made me cry and relate so much! My hubby and I have a similar situation. :) John's a keeper for sure.

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  50. Ugh. That made me tear up too! Hug him tight!

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  51. What a sweetie! So nice to hear such a warm-hearted little story.

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  52. Best. Husband. Ever. <3

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  53. Jen, this post reminded me (in a roundabout way) that you SAVED MY LIFE last month.
    I was sleepless from cramps which seized me like back spasms for the third night in a row, job and school was suffering from my fatigue, and while I was crying into my pillow, your post about corset compression for period pain came back to me.

    I had nothing to lose, so I put on a pair of compression-top stockings and the pain immediately abated, allowing me to get a restive night's sleep. John is an amazing hubby... but he also has an amazing wife, who overcomes so many pitfalls, and brings so many people happiness.

    You BOTH are amazing, inspirational, and the world is a better place, knowing your love. All the best. <3

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  54. Aaaaaaawww... He's your lobster! <3 :)

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  55. what a tremendous man.
    thanks for the wonderful tears this monday morning. xo

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  56. Have you read "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs? Dr. Eggerichs explains in his book that a man has a deep need to protect and even die for his woman. John's words totally speak to that reality. It seems weird as a woman, but let him sleep on the couch. It will communicate the respect he desires from you.

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  57. I love you two.

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  58. Your John sounds like my Clay. Sounds like he understands what it is to be a husband :)

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  59. It really is the little words that are said to remind us why we love the men we choose. Especially the men that ACTUALLY say them. Hope John feels better. and tell him to quit being so stubborn. :)

    --Piper P from Washington State

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  60. Well he just made me cry, too. I'm glad your husband has a clue.

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  61. Oh my. John made me tear up today. What a wonderful husband you have. I hope he gets better soon. You guys are my favorite!

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  62. Leave it to John to turn the internet into a blubbering mass of tears.* Nicely done, sir!

    *Myself included!

    ~Jodee

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  63. Make that man a cake! (Or you know, similarly appreciated desert.)

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  64. Oh wow! That's just awesome, I hope I get to be with someone half as amazing

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  65. That has got to be the sweetest and most wonderful thing a partner could ever say and do. You are a lucky woman with a truly wonderful husband. He made me cry. I never cry. Except maybe to those Sarah McLaughlin commercials.

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  66. That has got to be the sweetest and most wonderful thing a partner could ever say and do. You are a lucky woman with a truly wonderful husband. He made me cry. I never cry. Except maybe to those Sarah McLaughlin commercials.

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  67. Hi Jen! I know you probably get a lot of suggestions/ideas to help ease your cramping, but I couldn't help but throw this on to the pile. Have you tried using essential oils? My best friend in high school would miss days at a time due to her cramps, but then her mom got into essential oils (she had Lupus and was looking for more natural relief). My friend used a blend called Dragon Time (Young Living), and it really helped with the pain. There are other blends that may be useful, too. Here's a link: http://homemadewellness.com/must-have-essential-oils-to-survive-your-period-pms/
    They also have oil blends to help with anxiety, migraines, and a host of other ailments/conditions. I don't know if you have a distributor near you, but it might be worth looking into.

    And your husband is wonderful :-)

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  68. You are a blessed woman and I love reading about how you and John look out for each other and do projects together and just plain old love each other. He's a good man and you're good together.

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  69. You've definitely got a keeper! <3

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  70. wow, what a guy! add me to the pile of crying wreckies!

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  71. Can we give John a giant Internet bear hug?? Who's with me?

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  72. I actually teared up! What a sweet, absolutely beautiful thing to say. Best wishes for his recovery!

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  73. You are totally going to make him blush! I love it when you give him props. He is so deserving. You are both blessed to have each other. *sniffle*

    -Just Andrea

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  74. Aww John! He is such a great guy.
    And you Jen, are an equally wonderful woman.
    John's been with you through everything all the anxiety and the cramps, when you were with him when he almost died and when he regained his hearing and you to have the most inspiring beautiful stories of sticking with each other and being there for each other when your bodies are giving you trouble.
    Your love just seems so perfect and easy and I'm so glad you two found each other in this crazy world!

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  75. Awwww, John, you are the sweetest!!! <3

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  76. Damn-it John! Why you gotta make all the girls feel the feels?

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  77. John made me cry today. MEN! Sometimes they are worth the trouble ;-)

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  78. I don't know John and he made me cry. That man is a keeper.

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  80. Awwww! What a good hubby!!

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  81. You've got a winner. It made me tear up just to read it.

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